At a time when experts warn that North Korea’s nuclear test site is “primed and ready,” President Donald Trump on Wednesday told the Fox Business Network , “we are sending an armada, very powerful. We have submarines, very powerful, far more powerful than the aircraft carrier.”
The president said of Kim Jong Un’s threats against U.S. warships, “we have the best military people on Earth. And I will say this: He is doing the wrong thing.”
This Saturday marks the 105th anniversary of the birth of Kim Il Sung, “eternal president” of North Korea, and grandfather of Kim Jong Un. Historically, Pyongyang has launched missile tests around important dates on the North Korean calendar.
The “armada,” officially called the U.S. Navy’s Carrier Strike Group 1, is currently making its way toward North Korea. The strike group is led by the flagship U.S.S. Carl Vinson, which was commissioned in 1982 and has since had a long and rich history. Often called “America's Favorite Aircraft Carrier”, the San Diego-based ship was named for Rep. Carl Vinson, a Democrat from Georgia.
Carl Vinson was born on November 18, 1883, and served more than 50 years in the U.S. House of Representatives. He was known for his motto, “The most expensive thing in the world is a cheap Army and Navy,” insisting on U.S. military strength and preparedness.
Branded as the “Father of the Two-Ocean Navy”, Rep. Vinson sponsored the bill that increased the size of the U.S. Navy by 70 percent, allocating 4 billion dollars for the expansion of the Navy. The bill, signed by President Roosevelt in 1940 and known as the Vinson-Walsh Act, the Two-Ocean Navy Act and the Seventy Percent Act, was one of the largest procurement bills in the history of the Navy. His efforts earned him the nickname, “the Admiral.” He retired on Christmas Day, 1964, boarding a train for Georgia. At the time, he was the longest serving member in the history of the House of Representatives.
Sailors assigned to the Electronic Attack Squadron (VAQ) 136 'Gauntlets' prepare an EA-18G Growler for flight on the USS Carl Vinson (CVN 70). (US Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 3rd Class Matt Brown)
In 1964, President Lyndon Johnson awarded Vinson the Presidential Medal of Freedom, calling him a “master legislative captain, helmsman, and navigator, his fixed star has always been the national interest.”
Vinson was the first living person in the history of the Navy to witness the launch of a ship named in his honor.
Perhaps best known for the burial-at-sea of Usama bin Laden in 2011, the U.S.S. Carl Vinson provided humanitarian assistance and disaster relief operations in Haiti, arriving just 72 hours after the earthquake struck. The aircraft carrier has also been deployed in Operation Desert Strike, Operation Iraqi Freedom, Operation Southern Watch and Operation Enduring Freedom.
The vessel earned the unique honor of hosting the first NCAA basketball game played on an aircraft carrier in 2011.
The U.S.S. Carl Vinson joined the fight against ISIS in Iraq and Syria as part of Operation Inherent Resolve, deployed for nearly 10 months in the Western Pacific. Returning home in June of 2015, the Carl Vinson Carrier Strike Group with embarked Carrier Air Wing “successfully flew 12,300 sorties, including 2,382 combat missions and dropped more than a half a million pounds of ordnance in the fight against ISIS” according to Navy officials.
The impressive American aircraft carrier diverted to the waters around North Korea certainly sends a message. The president tweeted Thursday that he has confidence in neighboring China’s ability to “deal” with the isolated nation, promising that if they can’t, the U.S. stands ready to do so.
There are many parents and children suffering from Parental Alienation. It’s tragic. I know this because my youtube video on the subject has an excessive number of responses...too many people are relating to this issue.
Today, let’s take a look at what’s going on behind the scenes. What motivates the alienator to abuse their children by disapproving of their relationship with the target parent? Hint: Narcissism and PAS are often found in the same scenario...but not always.
PAS is one of the narcissist’s favorite strategies to take control of the children during divorce. Many of the narcissist’s actions are based on fear, insecurity and past trauma. Parental Alienation is no different. Unfortunately, the person they are attempting to pay back (their ex) is not technically the one who ends up damaged. Hurt? Yes, it hurts like hell to be on the receiving end of such bitter and unnecessary disregard. Damaged? No, we aren’t the ones who end up damaged.
The real victims are the children.
Often, they aren’t mature enough to manage the behaviors and emotions that result from PAS.
You can imagine the confusion your child experiences. Why is dad angry and disappointed with me if I have nothing negative to say about mom? They soon learn that to share with their father (or mother), their pleasure and (normal) relationship with their other parent is a big ‘no-no’. They learn that to agree with father and tell negatives is to earn his approval. They soon become guarded and lose their innocent candor.
Your children learn that in order to get love from their father (or mother, if she’s the alienator), they must agree with their constant complaints of their other parent. While the alienating parent is washing out the brain of the child’s good memories of the target parent, they’re replacing them with negatives, including lies. The child soon believes these lies and misrepresented facts as the new truth. It’s their new reality.
That said, I’ve explained the basic premise of PA in an earlier post, but now I will try to explore the actual reasons for it. I use the father as an example here, but of course, mothers can play this game equally well.
Why does it happen?
Well there are many theories as to the cause of PA. One certain fact though, is the alienator is in FEAR of losing their children no matter how illogical. Fear is the opposite of love, so little good comes from it. The other certain factor is the alienator is trying to regain CONTROL over a situation. They may further attempt to RETALIATE against the target parent as a consequence for their abandonment. He may feel for example, that if she has chosen to walk out why should she get the kids? In their mind, there should be a consequence.
All of this adds up to punishing the children. So, how can we help our children cope with our absence, their parent’s anger and misrepresentations?
1) Start TALKING-open communication and allowing the children to express what’s on their mind—anything, will open up discussion and help ease the child’s anxieties. Silence is not the answer.
2) RE-affirm your relationship with your children-either by reminiscing on old, fun or humorous memories, reminding them how much you believe in them, continuing to recognize birthdays, special occasions and continue or start new traditions.
3) EXPLAIN to them that their father’s (mother’s) anger toward you (the target parent) is not their fault. If daddy is angry, that’s not something they can change. Their job is to be the kid.
4) REMIND them that no one is perfect- they aren’t perfect. I remember telling one of my kids ‘remember that math test you failed? I didn’t judge your whole academic abilities on that one exam, right? So, is it fair to judge me based on that one mistake?” You’re not perfect, they’re other parent is not perfect either. We have to accept that we make mistakes. Apologies are important and eventually we move forward as a family.
5) Re-WASH or RINSE their brains with the good memories and reality of what your relationship was like in the past. Share your hopes for the future. Don’t stop planning for the future with your kids whether that’s tomorrow, next week, next month or next five years. This shows them that you believe in them and are there for them no matter the situation.
I hope this helps you understand Parental Alienation more clearly. Mostly, I hope you are able to help your children cope with it. It is a form of child abuse. Also, make sure you’re not falsely accusing your ex of PA. Read my first post on the subject, watch the video and/or read my book , where I outline questions to ask before diagnosing PA.
Bottom line? Every parent should have a relationship with their child(ren).